Asking for what you want means having enough selfconfidence to deal with a no.
It's a boot-strapping process. You'll find that being honest with yourself and others and asking for what you want actually builds your self-esteem/confidence.
Personally, I find a "No" to be a hell of a lot better than hints at maybe. With a good, solid "No" you can focus on moving on.
I have also gotten maybe a few times and always obliquely rather than directly. IE I am still a good girl if I don't give a direct answer.
Yeah, fuck that. I want a woman self-secure enough to be honest about her sexuality.
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Date: 2004-11-03 02:14 pm (UTC)It's a boot-strapping process. You'll find that being honest with yourself and others and asking for what you want actually builds your self-esteem/confidence.
Personally, I find a "No" to be a hell of a lot better than hints at maybe. With a good, solid "No" you can focus on moving on.
I have also gotten maybe a few times and always obliquely rather than directly. IE I am still a good girl if I don't give a direct answer.
Yeah, fuck that. I want a woman self-secure enough to be honest about her sexuality.