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[jeffreyab]

[Poll #852515]

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[dagibbs.livejournal.com]

For question 1, I don't have a non-SFnal love life for comparison purposes.

For question 2:
Of the partners I've had, I met 2 at SF conventions, 2 through the partner I met at an SF convention, and 1 through a poly get-together. All of them have been readers of SF to at least some extent, for some it was their primary reading genre. Anyone who has visited my home even once can not help but know I'm a fan -- my book shelves shout it out loudly. Most people I've befriended (and all I've bepartnered) have thought this a good thing.

Also, almost all of my more casual flings have been at SF conventions.

[thebitterguy]

Heh. Met my wife at Ad Astra about 8 years ago.

[caradina.livejournal.com]

SF and other geekery (medieval reinactments) are BIG parts of me. I tend to prefer companions who share the same interests. In fact, most of thepeople I date are more fannish than myself!

[euziere.livejournal.com]

I imagine there's a lot of variation among people as to how prominent their science fiction fan identity is. For me, "reveal" would be an overstatement - "mention" would be more accurate. That may be because I don't participate much in fannish culture, I just like science fiction. This is probably going to evoke a different reaction from your average date than someone who socializes primarily within fandom and attends lots of cons.

I also can't imagine having enough in common with someone who would look down on me for liking science fiction to go on more than one date with them. People from what I think of as "my" culture - a loose aggregation of several different cultures - don't necessarily have to like science fiction, but they sure as hell better not look down on someone who does.

[tlatoani.livejournal.com]

I imagine there's a lot of variation among people as to how prominent their science fiction fan identity is. For me, "reveal" would be an overstatement - "mention" would be more accurate.

Although I do go to cons and am obviously involved in a lot of stuff, I don't self-identify as "fannish" either. So "how early in a relationship do you reveal you're fannish," with its connotation that being fannish is a core element of identity, like being gay, doesn't really resonate with me.

SF is one of my main interests, and it comes up when it comes up.

[fredcritter.livejournal.com]

For many years sf conventions weren't the center of my fannish activities; that is to say, I've met more of my friends and lovers though fandom than in the "mundane" activities of my life, but I can't say that I met most of them at conventions. It would be most accurate to say that I've met most of my lovers through my network of friends and acquaintances, many of whom are in fandom. There were also quite a few times when we knew each other for some time before we actually met in the flesh; sometimes that meeting would take place at a convention, but the pre-knowledge aspect was likely more important than the convention aspect.

[fredcritter.livejournal.com]

(oops--hit "enter" too soon)
As far as "mentioning" it goes… I dunno. Everybody I meet learns pretty early on that I am a voracious reader. My involvement in fandom, while a major part of my life, isn't something I fret about mentioning or avoiding—when the conversation rolls that way it gets mentioned, until then it doesn't.

I hope this helps.

[dekarch.livejournal.com]

Ummmm. . . I met my future wife on alt.fan.heinlein.

When I picked her up for the "first date" (Lunch, really. At Wendy's) she saw a book on the floor of my Saturn and picked it up and we ended up starting the conversation by discussing the book.

[treebones.livejournal.com]

Clarifications.

#1. When I date outside of the tribe, potentially. I don't do that much.

#2. Whenever it fits naturally, usually at the point we're discussing hobbies, responsibilities, or friends. But, again, since I usually date within the extended community, not much of an issue.

[rmeidaking.livejournal.com]

But then, I'm a girl.

Anyone seeking a mate should frequent events that qualify as "Target-rich environments" (to steal a term from Dr. Phil). For a geekish girl in seek of a mate, there are few venues that are better than an SF con.

I think the problem on the flip side is that geekish guys outnumber geekish girls about ten to one: there aren't enough to go around. Rumor has it, though, that increasing numbers of geekish girls have discovered anime, so that anime cons supposedly often have equal numbers of boys and girls. Is this allowed? I'll give you an update on this after Youmacon.

Hey, we need more people to work on the ConFusion party there. Morgan says that some folks will be able to get in free to work on it (it's held in the ConSuite, 8 pm - 1 am, Friday and Saturday). This is ten days from now. (The hotel is sold out, and Morgan is now expecting an attendance rate in the thousands instead of the hundreds he had planned on. Aieee....) We're hoping to convince 10% of them to come to ConFusion.

[jeffreyab.livejournal.com]

I am available to help out.

At anime cons the average female is in her teens or early to maybe mid twenties.

Also from what I can tell they don't drink much and definitely not beer.

[marahsk.livejournal.com]

I think the problem on the flip side is that geekish guys outnumber geekish girls about ten to one: there aren't enough to go around.

That may be true in the workplace, but hasn't been true at sf cons for at least 30 years.

[avt-tor.livejournal.com]

For question 1, you don't have an entry for "has enhanced your love life".

[marahsk.livejournal.com]

Echoing avt_tor, I would have picked "enhanced." I met my husband through people I'd met at an sf con.

The only way being an sf fan could have hampered my love life would have been if I had been interested in being with someone who thought less of sf fans. Since I could never be interested in such a person, it could never be an issue.

For #2, it's not something shameful that I have to worry about how to "reveal." It comes out naturally whenever we get to what we enjoy doing in our free time. Anyone who reacts badly isn't someone I'd want to be seriously involved with, any more than if I found out that they were racists or rabid pro-Bush Republicans.

[hoolypai.livejournal.com]

I'm not a SF fanatic, but I'm a video game geek, so we do have some parallels but...

I met my boyfriend at work, while I was working at a video game store -- so my video game geekiness was already there.