"Nice Guys"

[jeffreyab]

Please go here:

http://www.heartless-bitches.com/rants/niceguys/niceguys.shtml

Read this essay and then post your comments HERE.

Comments

[tammylc.livejournal.com]

Harsh, but seems about right to me. As it says at the end - liking yourself is key.

[matt-arnold.livejournal.com]

There are too many comments to read. So I'll just post my comment here where it is more likely to be read.
I guess there do exist men who are insecure, needy and desperate under the sanction of niceness. But not all men who misunderstand romance in this way are necessarily "nice" in other dealings, and there also exist self-respecting men who don't meet the "nice guy" description, and yet are not bad or cruel, the opposite of nice.
Besides, the article is no less true of nice girls, although perhaps they are more often forgiven for it.

[twoofdtm.livejournal.com]

Seconded!

[harmer.livejournal.com]

Their description of a Nice Guy seems so different from anytime I've ever dated a self-professed "Nice Guy."

In my experience, Nice Guys are always so obsessed with being nice and every other guy is crap that they're actually huge closed-minded morons.

[harmer.livejournal.com]

That is totally right, for my experiences at least.

I don't know where the self-professed Nice Guys get off thinking they're great, because they're always the cheaters or idiots.

[minnehaha.livejournal.com]

Yep. More or less right, for most people.

B

Adding another point

[twoofdtm.livejournal.com]

I should state that I do think this is an overgeneralization. Just like most statement's or opinions are on the web.
Or as the others have stated. You have the truly nice men and the ones that SAY they're the nice guys. There is a difference. *shrugs*

ack! Too true!

[bardicwench.livejournal.com]

I've found that a lot of guys that I've dated have fit this article! Scary, but true...

I'm going to steal this for my own lj... hope you don't mind. *grin*

[cohen7.livejournal.com]

insecurity i find, often goes both ways. arrogance, after all, is often a sign of insecurity.

[drama-freak.livejournal.com]

Hey, this isn't related to the entry, but I don't have your e-mail :(. Anywho, the holidays have been chaos, and I haven't had much of a chance to see everyone in Sarnia, but if I get the chance, are you working in the library tomorrow? Anywho, happy new year and all that!
'Manda