Informal Poll on Love and Friendship

[jeffreyab]

Here are some questions I am looking for different answers to:


What is love to you?

What is true love? and does it matter?

For that matter what is friendship?

What is an affair?

How does one have "an affair?"

Should I have try to have for the experience it would give me?

Knowing what you do about me what should I be looking for in a partner?

What is a good way to find women if your are over forty and do not live in a big city or a college town?
(For example contra dancing is out so is moving for economic reasons.)

Comments

[sleigh.livejournal.com]

Marah's advice on meeting people sounds as reasonable as anything I could say. Good advice.

I might quibble on "affair." To me, an affair is a ongoing relationship outside your primary relationship, the knowledge of which must be kept secret because it's a betrayal of your primary relationship. Affairs are definitely Not Good.

[marahsk.livejournal.com]

That's the most common definition, but I've also heard affair to mean just "love affair." I assumed that's what Jeff is referring to, since he's not married and it didn't sound like he meant should he try to date a married woman.

[jeffreyab.livejournal.com]

Yes there seems to be some conflict as to how to use this word.

Some use it for any sexual relationship outside of marriage and others use it for a secret sexual relationship when you are in a relationship.