Informal Poll on Love and Friendship

[jeffreyab]

Here are some questions I am looking for different answers to:


What is love to you?

What is true love? and does it matter?

For that matter what is friendship?

What is an affair?

How does one have "an affair?"

Should I have try to have for the experience it would give me?

Knowing what you do about me what should I be looking for in a partner?

What is a good way to find women if your are over forty and do not live in a big city or a college town?
(For example contra dancing is out so is moving for economic reasons.)

Comments

Re: I might as well set a baseline answer.

[pi3832.livejournal.com]

Lack of experience overall and especially with women my age.

Fuggetaboudit. You can't change your past, and going through the motions merely for "the experience" is just going to highlight how unsatisfying empty relationships are. IMO.

I have been on the relationship beach since about 1999.

Five years? Get back to me in 2006, then you can top me for dry spells.

I have also tried amateur theatre.

Personally, I found that doing things in order to "meet someone" just never work out. I dunno why. Maybe I just give off some kind of creepy vibe in those situations, or maybe God just has a twisted sense of humor.

I've repeatedly considered using a dating service of some sort, but then I wonder if I wouldn't just be better off spending the money in a strip club. At least there's no confusion about anyone's motive there.


Ah, screw it. What do I know? Look, my major point here is: get over it. Women are baffling, frustrating, wonderful beings, and God only knows why they make the choices they do.

Live your life. Be happy. If an opportunity for a relationship presents itself, pursue it with sincerety and honesty. If it doesn't work out, get back to riding motorcycles or whatever it is you do that makes you feel alive and happy.


I recently said to a friend, "I've never really dated much," and he replied, casually, "Of course not, you're weird."

He tried to pile on hopeful statements after that, but there you are. I'm weird. I'm guessing you're weird. Not like icky, National Enquirier weird, just different from most guys. Some chicks dig that, but not many--face it, most people strive to be average. Cross your fingers and hope for the best, but don't waste your otherwise valuable time worrying about it.